Sunday, October 30, 2011

Beauty from Ashes(Tribute to Dad)

A special dedication to all those who has suffered the loss of someone special in their lives, and also people who are just struggling to know that there is still a tomorrow for them. 

October 26th six years ago, just 4 days after my birthday,was the day my life turned upside down and everything that I relied on fell apart for the first time in my life.

I was born with a disease called "Osteogenesis Imperfecta" a.k.a. "brittle bones" disease. For my whole life as I could remember, I've been constantly breaking bones. I could walk when I was very young but started falling down a lot & breaking my bones frequently after that. I stopped walking at the age of 2 or 3. My mum was the one carrying me around all the time until we could afford a wheelchair. Being laughed at & talked about behind my back were not unfamiliar to me. Plus,the "stares" people gave me whenever my mum carries me although  I was old enough, hurt a lot. 


However, despite all that I would say that I was never a bitter person (depressed maybe but definitely not bitter) because of my parents. My mum was always there to carry me & take care of me. My dad  was the person that I looked up to the most & yet was like my best friend. We used to talk, play PS games together, joke around and have fun. As I grew up he was the one who taught me about perseverance, principles and the things that shaped my character today.


The year was 2005. I celebrated my 14th birthday on the 22nd of October, the day before I had another surgery on my leg. Because of the fever that I was having as a reaction to the wound, I was only discharged 4 days after the surgery. That very morning my mum told me my dad wasn't feeling well. He was shivering & vomiting all of a sudden. Then news came that it was a heart attack. My dad never had a heart condition before this. He even had a body check up a few days before that & it showed that he was well. In less than 5 hours, my mum called me and said that my dad passed away


My whole life crumbled before my eyes as I wept, not knowing the future of the family. It all happened so quickly and suddenly that it felt like a nightmare that I was desperate to wake up from. I lost one of the most important person in my life in less than 5 hours & I didn't get to see him before he left. I felt like I was buried deep within the ashes of a great fire. Because of that,my mum, me & my 2 sister had to move somewhere else so that my mum could work. To cut the story short, as a result of that, I got to know Jesus 2 years after the tragic incident in my life. 


All I want to share is God has a plan for you and I. He didn't take my dad away so that I could believe in Him. Everyone has to die one day. All He did was to use the tragedy in my life (like my disease,my dad & challenges in life,etc. ) and make it into something BEAUTIFUL. So, put your hope in Jesus because in Him there is HOPE


He can bring BEAUTY out from the ASHES that you are in, whatever it may be. He has done that for me, He will do it for you too. In Him, there is always a tomorrow! 


In memory of,


Lee Seng Wai (1956-2005)
Husband, father, mentor, best friend, loved one.


Be blessed. 

5 comments:

  1. Yea,Jane...I do look a lot like him..^^

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  2. 人生的路程上,无论遇到什么难题,不轻易放弃。
    继续加油 =)

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  3. thank you for sharing this very personal story with us. :) It's truly awesome how God works. :) Continue to run this race. We are all running along and by you. :)

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